|You're forgiven if you thought this revolved around you.|
More patient. More tolerant. Less swearing. More sensitive. Less cynical. More patient. Less sarcastic. More mature. More considerate. Less impulsive. More patient (that's not a typo. I've got a real issue with patience).
If we're in the middle of a song and you ask to "start over," we do it. (Honestly, I don't know how many times I've heard the first 30 seconds of a song over and over and over and over and over.)
You see son, you're about to get the greatest gift of all, a brother. And, like any great gift, or anything worth having, when something is gained, something else is lost.
You're about to learn some new values and acquire a new set of virtues. Your mother and I could teach you these things but, nothing will be as effective as this.
You're going to learn that the first 3.5 years of your life have been, in many ways, one giant tease.
You'll learn the value of sharing — not just toys either. The value of sharing your time, of sharing attention, of sharing success and, yes, of sharing blame and responsibility.
You're also getting an occasional adversary, the likes of which you'll never encounter elsewhere. He'll know all of your weak spots and you'll know all of his but, because your brothers, you won't exploit them.
You'll sneak in and dump a cup of ice-cold water on him when he's having a warm shower.
He'll draw on your face with a marker if you fall asleep before him. You'll tie his shoes together and you'll tell him that the brown stuff on the ground is chocolate and he should try it.
When you grow up, there's going to be times you hear something funny that makes you think of your brother. You'll chuckle to yourself because you know that no one else would be tickled by this joke the way you are, except your brother.
When you're older, you'll realize that sharing like this makes life's moments richer and having a brother means having someone to share with — always.
In the tough moments, you'll find strength and motivation from one another. You'll push each other to be better, and not just in a competitive light.
So, you're losing a lot to be sure.
But, my son, you're gaining so, so much more.